oh yeah absolutely, OP was just curious about something and used an ever so slightly outdated term by accident. I didn’t make the first comment but I assume the comment-op wanted to simply give them a heads up on the current lingo so to say

alright, i’m not judging you? I’m just making you aware of the current connotations of using that term

as someone who knows a lot about TERF discourse second hand (not a fan of personally engaging with them) - TERFs are more likely to say “transwoman” than “trans woman”. I don’t have a proper citation but I’ll try to walk you through the logic of it

what “transwoman” implies is that it’s not a “real woman” (never realwoman, of course). It subtly excludes trans women from the title of “women” by making the word itself seem like it’s some sort of third option, not a real woman, not a man, a “transwoman”.

trans inclusive communities nearly always have the space, that’s because trans women are simply a sub-category of women, and not something different altogether.

though nowadays you’re also likely to see more outspoken TERFs say “TIM” which stands for “trans identified male” (they mean trans women)

bottom line is, in online spheres trans friendly people and sources will almost always have the space, and trans exclusive people and sources tend to write that as one word

it’s the same sort of linguistic shift that prompted the trans community to stop using “transsexual” move to “trans[gender]” and now “trans [gender]”. Even though in essence they all mean the same, some of them have been used by groups that hate us much more than others. (For a similar example see “stupid” > “retarded” > “special needs” > “special” > “intellectually disabled”. All the words before “intellectually disabled” are medical terms turned insults, and honestly i’m not even sure if “intellectually disabled” isn’t halfway there already)

it changed its meaning because bad actors decided to use that term specificlly, to imply that “trans[gender]” is a third sort of option (that is not part of the “normal” or “real” genders) and also the biggest enemy of “real [gender]” and especially “real women”. The same way “transsexual” became a slur, the same way “retarded” or “special needs” became slurs/insults. If you say someone’s name with enough hatred in your voice enough times it’ll become an insult as well.

it’s stupid i know, and we should reclaim it at one point, but for now it’s a dogwhistle for transphobes, at least in online spaces

as a trans man i think my dreams have weirder things to unpack than my POV character’s gender, but overall it varies, 96% of the time i’m just me, those 4% of dreams i remember that i was someone else have a pretty 50/50 gender split

and per the me part: i’m a man but gender never really comes up so i’d be more inclined to say i’m just me

in a meta way he still kind of did though

i cannot express how much i hate that, why must people keep imagining points and opinions i never said or made

ahh that brings back my memory of sneaking out lettuce from the hotel cafeteria so I can give it to the local perfume & tea shop keeper’s tortoise, talking with the locals is the best

look at this tiny big chomp :)

AirBnB was better than hotels for like a year or two, then the landleeches got greedy

why does it look like a frog

or roughly one hour after the thing :)

Well we’re bringing extreme seasons back babyyy, writing this as I look at my thermometer say it’s 40C outside again and I’m in the middle of Europe. In the past I’d call it a heatwave but now it’s the summer norm, with occasional cold waves

today I killed at least 10 flies sat on my kitchen window, I left the kitchen for 10minutes, and when I got back there were 5 more

absolutely! I was told at a career workshop that simply being recognised amounts for as much as 80% of hires.

And yeah I can definitely see it, when you go out to buy something you’re probably going to buy the same things as you did before aren’t you?

distant screams in the background

yeah but as someone entering the job market it’s soul crushing to see all those listings. You think that you’re the problem, that everyone else entering the field does have 3 years of experience already. It just fucking sucks, what’s the point in inflating the requirements like that?

so entering the job market is borderline impossible because all the “entry level positions” require you to have 3 years of experience, and then, if you miraculously get a job, changing it or getting fired is incredibly dangerous because said “experience” doesn’t even matter in the eyes of AI overlords scanning your CV for keywords half of which it probably hallucinated

cool cool, society is doing great

eye contact? no clue how much or how little is appropriate

why good at school? adhd and being smart do not exclude one another

honestly I don’t know. When you look at the religions of the world all of them say “love and help each other please :) be good to your fellow human beings, be kind, be gentle” and then you look at the execution of those ideas by the majority of religious people- and it’s all twisted and used for hate & you see people saying that without the threat of eternal punishment there is nothing holding them back from hurting others

instead of religion forcing compassion I’d say we should just teach compassion really

nah I wouldn’t gatekeep adulthood like that lol